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Adoption Rights Alliance Media Guide
In response to concerns expressed by adopted people and natural parents
in contact with us, Adoption Rights Alliance has put together this Media
Guide to assist those who may wish to share their stories with the
Are you ready?
Before you continue, we suggest that you take the time to consider
whether you are ready to publicly share your story. If you are in the
midst of your trace for example, or if you are at the beginning of your
reunion, you might decide that the time is not right for you. On the
other hand, some find the experience of sharing their story to be
empowering and a way to share their good news; and indeed, for those
encountering difficulties tracing (particularly with illegal adoptions)
some find that going to the media might help in making progress.
If you do decide to proceed, that decision should be made freely and not
because of any kind of pressure exerted upon you. – Remember it is okay
to say no!
First and foremost, you are entitled to be respected by the person who
is interviewing you and you should not feel shy about demanding that
Some people are in a position where they would like to tell their story
but they are unsure if they would like their names in the public domain.
If this applies to you, we suggest that you make it very clear to the
journalist beforehand and if the interview is for television, ensure
that you are happy with the set up – e.g. if your voice will be changed
or an actor used, if your face will be blurred or in shadow. Remember,
it is perfectly in order for you to ask questions and say that you are
uncomfortable if this is the case. If you are still unsure but would
like your story on record, please feel free to contact us at
firstname.lastname@example.org about the
Adoption Oral History Project, where you can tell your story
anonymously and on your terms.
Before proceeding, you should decide what you are happy to say and what
you are uncomfortable discussing. If something is a ‘no-go’ area,
remember it is okay to say no and ask the interviewer to move on. It
might also be helpful, particularly in the case of a live interview, if
you let the producer know beforehand if there is something you do not
wish to be asked.
If you would like the interview conducted in a particular location, do
not be afraid to ask for this.
Most radio outlets ask for a landline number as it is likely to be of
better quality. If you are not comfortable handing out your landline
number just say you don’t have one so you are not pressured into giving
it. We also strongly suggest that you do not distribute your phone
number further than you have to and ensure that you stipulate that it is
not handed to anyone else by the journalist without your express
Many media interviews (both television and radio) are pre-recorded and
in the case of newspaper/magazine interviews, the journalist will take
notes. While this is certainly less pressured than a live interview, you
should be aware that things you say can be taken out of context.
Therefore we recommend that you ask to see a copy of the finished
product before it is aired or gone to print. If you are unhappy, do not
be afraid to submit clarifications.
What is an exclusive?
An exclusive is where a media organisation asks you not to go on any
other show/paper until they have run your story themselves.
‘Hard news’ versus ‘soft news’
While most media outlets will want access to personal stories (known as
‘soft news stories’), it is also preferable to include a ‘hard news’
element to the story (i.e. information about the campaign for equal
rights by opening adoption records) in whatever piece is being put
together. If you do decide to tell your story, you can help with this by
explaining that adopted people do not have automatic access to their
birth certificates and files and by offering your views on this. Again,
if you are motivated to tell your story to further the campaign for
equality, Adoption Rights Alliance would strongly recommend that you
impress upon the journalist the importance of approaching us for a
What journalists to work with
If you are uncomfortable working with a particular journalist or a
particular publication/media outlet, it is okay to say no to this
person/outlet in favour of another. More often than not, adopted people
and natural parents tend to trust those journalists who have worked on
the topic for a long time and who have proven their trustworthiness.
If you are approached by more than one publication or by more than one
journalist and you are unsure which one to deal with, the first thing
you need to consider is whether you wish to speak with just one
journalist or if you are happy to deal with more than one media outlet
(unless you have been asked and agree to an exclusive, which typically
happens with larger media organisations). You should also think about
your motivations for doing the interview – if you simply wish to share
your story for your own personal reasons, then your decision will be
guided by that. If you are sharing your story to further your trace,
then you might decide that a local station/newspaper has a better chance
of yielding results. If you are sharing your story because you wish to
assist in furthering the campaign for equality, and you wish to pick
just one media outlet/journalist, we would advise that you choose a
larger publication/station with wider coverage.
Authenticity of projects
If you are invited to take part in a documentary or in-depth piece which
involves opening up significantly about your life story, we strongly
advise that you clarify that the project is actually going ahead before
you commit to divulging your personal story. If you give your story to a
project that does not go ahead immediately, we strongly recommend that
you make your wishes clear about how your interview is treated in the
future. For example, you may want your interview to be destroyed, but if
not you should ask to be informed before it is used in the future.
Ending the interview
It is okay to end the interview at any time, especially if you feel
You have the right to refuse a photograph if you are uncomfortable with
this. We also suggest that you ensure your Facebook and other social
media photos are set to private so that they are not obtained by media
outlets who do not take the time to ask.
Control over your story
You should be aware that even if you agree to give your story to only
one journalist, it is still possible for your story to be used by other
media outlets. E.g. in the case of a radio interview, transcripts are
often used as quotes or portions of newspaper or magazine interviews can
be quoted – again, with photographs from social media to accompany the
If you would like someone from Adoption Rights Alliance to act as an
initial intermediary while you make your decision on whether to speak to
the media, we would be happy to help, though please bear in mind that we
are volunteers and do not have much free time, so our availability is
extremely limited. If you are having difficulty with a member of the
media bothering you, please let us know and we can advise you further.
Click here to download a PDF version of our Media Guide
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